I am, I am, I am

I am, I am, I am

I'm erica.
just an average girl making the most of her average life in this stunningly beautiful world.
These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’

Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize.
coriolis:

An unreleased one. The first time I decided to publish a photo showing my face. The headless format was proving to be too limiting, and I felt somewhat confident.  Sometimes it works, sometimes I feel returning to the anonymous format is preferable to the mood of the picture. I still have my doubts about leaving the mask, it was warm and comfortable. When I end up hating an image, I feel too exposed.

coriolis:

An unreleased one. The first time I decided to publish a photo showing my face. The headless format was proving to be too limiting, and I felt somewhat confident.
Sometimes it works, sometimes I feel returning to the anonymous format is preferable to the mood of the picture. I still have my doubts about leaving the mask, it was warm and comfortable. When I end up hating an image, I feel too exposed.

Anonymous asked:
Do you think you'll ever see aaron again?

I am, I am, I am

aaron and i are magnets. get us flipped the wrong way and the opposition is intense enough that you have to force them together.

but one way or another they tend to snap back into place until they’re pried apart again.

i sincerly believe it’s only a matter of time. 


nzafro:

Oh no.

hedidntunderstandmeme:

i am an animal liberationist but not a vegan in the same way i’m a communist but own a PS4; i recognize that the systems are evil and must fall but refuse to engage with (and in the case of veganism, exacerbate existing anxieties over cooking) pedantic & individualism-based morality. capitalism must end, the slaughter of animals must end, but the chicken is already in the nugget

coolgirlwithcoolblog:

marisachafetz:

Olivia Bee and Andrew for Yen magazine part 2

DUDE

flasd:

Yayoi Kusama - The Galaxy

flasd:

Yayoi Kusama - The Galaxy

deargemma:

Lykke Li for Nylon Magazine

hannaoliviaway:

way road trip, day four//arches national park (Utah) and white river national forest (Colorado)